Caring Without Carrying: Healing from Other People’s Energy
- Ciann Masi
- 4 days ago
- 3 min read
Notice What Isn’t Yours
When other people’s energy gloms onto you, it often happens quietly through empathy, obligation, or unspoken emotional exchange. Healing begins with awareness. Notice what feels foreign in your body or mood, such as a heaviness that is not yours, a sudden emotional shift, or fatigue that does not match your actions. Simply recognizing and naming that something does not belong to you begins to loosen its hold. Energy that is not claimed loses its anchor, and your system starts to return to its own natural rhythm.
Release and Return Energy Where It Belongs
The next step is to consciously release and return what is not yours. This can be done through breath, intention, or visualization. As you exhale, imagine excess energy moving out of your body and back to where it originated, without judgment or resentment. When energy is allowed to return to its proper place, your own field settles, often bringing a sense of calm, clarity, or emotional lightness.
Ground Yourself in Your Own Energy
It is also important to strengthen your own energetic presence so outside influences do not easily attach. This develops through fully inhabiting your body and being present in your moment. Feeling your feet on the ground, noticing your breath, and maintaining gentle awareness of yourself throughout the day helps your energy feel more contained and coherent. When you are grounded in yourself, your system naturally distinguishes between what is yours and what is not.
Caring Without Carrying: Healing from Other People’s Energy
Healing also requires self-compassion. Many people absorb others’ energy because they are sensitive, caring, or deeply attuned to those around them. The work is learning how to care without carrying. You are not responsible for holding or fixing emotions that belong to someone else. As you practice releasing what is not yours and honoring your own boundaries, your energy becomes clearer and more stable, allowing connection without depletion.
A Simple Energy Release Practice
Begin by pausing whatever you are doing and allowing your awareness to drop out of your thoughts and into your body. Notice the weight of your body being held by the ground or the chair. Feel gravity doing the work for you. This is important because borrowed energy often floats in the upper body, while your own energy knows how to settle.
Feel Your Body and the Ground Beneath You
Bring your attention to the center of your chest or just below the navel, wherever you feel a sense of “me” most clearly. Do not try to change anything. Simply rest there and notice the quality of the energy. Your own energy tends to feel steady, familiar, and quiet, even if emotions are present. Anything that feels noisy, urgent, or pressurized can be gently acknowledged as not essential to hold.
Connect with Your Inner ‘Me’
On the exhale, allow the body to release without directing where it goes. Instead of imagining energy being pushed out, sense the nervous system loosening its grip. Say inwardly, I release what I am not meant to carry. Let the release happen downward, through the legs and feet, as if excess charge is draining naturally into the earth.
Reinforce Your Energetic Boundaries
Finish by orienting to your own boundary as a sense of completion. Feel the edges of your body from the inside, your skin containing your experience. Take one final breath and notice the subtle difference in tone. The practice is complete when there is nothing left to fix and a quiet sense of self remains.
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